To many, losing a child is too traumatic an experience to process. Yet many parents feel that fetal death is downplayed. “In part, this originates in the fact that over centuries and millennia, stillborn children have been seen as ‘freaks’ in many cultures around the world." says Juha Itkonen, a grief researcher and pastor. Itkonen has created a four-pronged coping model for those who come into contact with people experiencing a crisis.